A few tips on having a good or better relationship with your partner are:

1. Learn to compromise and negotiate on the things you want from each other.
2. Even if you don’t always agree with your partner…take a few minutes to see things from their point of view
3. Let one another know what your personal needs are and how you feel they could be met
4. Make time to discuss your expectations and negotiate responsibilities

There are also outside responsibilities that effect peoples relationships ie friends, family, work, money. Emotional demands can damage a relationship, for example:

1. Insisting that you give up your own friends
2. Making you feel guilty if you spend time with your family.
3. Making all the decisions about who you see and where you go
4. Giving approval on what you wear and what you spend your money on

All these, and plenty more, are added pressure on making a relationship work.

Being respectful of each others needs and wants is vital in any relationship.

If you have respectfully and repeatedly discussed an issue with your partner but received no positive results, then it is probably time to get some outside help.

I can offer a non judgemental approach to trying to help you make the most of your relationship, whether you prefer counselling together with your partner, or individually, I am here to help

The use of drugs does not automatically lead to abuse or addiction, as there is no specific level at which a casual drug user turns into a drug user with a problem. It depends on the individual and the power of the effects of the drug. Taking drugs can make you feel relaxed, chilled out and happy but the after effects often cause mood swings,anxiety and depression, and lead to problems in your family/work life.

Battling any addiction is hard, but it is much easier when you have people you can lean on for encouragement, comfort and guidance.

Recognizing that you may have a problem is the first step on the road to recovery and I am here to help you anyway I can.

The feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and worthlessness are intense and seem never ending.

The signs of depression can be:

1. You feel hopeless and helpless
2. You cant sleep or have a very disturbed sleep pattern
3. You find a negative in any situation
4. You are feeling more irritable or angry than normal
5. You dont want to socialise, preferring to keep yourself to yourself
6. You are drinking more than normal

Getting the support you need is the first step to starting to clear the fog of depression.

It’s quite a small, laid back, intimate space which I’ve recently completed. I’m also adding some more motivational images and affirmations around the room slightly.

Let me know what you think in the comments below

I’ll also be making a space within the room shortly for Holistic and Relaxation massage…

Keep your eyes out for the article on creation coming in the next few days

Lin x

It’s a scary thought: Alcohol causes 1.8 million deaths a year, which represents 3.2% of all deaths worldwide. Alongside this there’s an increasing number of unintentional injuries alongside alcohol being a common cause of death. Alcohol is also the leading cause of illness and disease.

It’s time to wake up. Bad habits and hidden tendencies to make you feel you “need a drink” in certain situations should be addressed immediately. Alcohol counselling can benefit certain people, alongside support groups and support from family and friends.

The first stage to dealing with any addiction, alcohol in particular, is to admit it. Early on is always best, when you feel you “need” alcohol in certain situations it’s time to realize a few home truths there and then. Don’t let it develop further…

There’s a lot of articles and help with alcohol addiction today, but if you need any advice simply get in contact with me and i’ll do my best to help

This video is called Running For My Existence, and this guy had two desires. One was to raise as much money as possible for his niece, and the other was to run the Boston Marathon for a personal achievement. He had this desire when he was over 22 stone… Make sure you watch this.

A lot of my clients have struggled through a situation of losing a loved one, and tend to not let grieving take it’s course. It’s very easily for us as human beings to go into auto drive after we lose someone, we tend to always keep busy and try to get on with daily routines as if nothing’s happened. You may think you’re dealing with it well, but believe me… your not.

I’ve dealt with a lot of people in the past who come to me with depression, and the underlying issue tends to always relate back to a period in their life where they’ve lost someone close. Instead of giving in to grief and letting it take it’s course, they’ve fought against it and continued living like nothing has happened. This simply pushes an emotional trauma to the back of their mind, but it will always surface as time goes on. Have you ever done something similar?

Death is not an end, and believe it or not it’s actually a new beginning for new opportunities to arise. Experiencing grief is natural, and it’s all part of growing as a person. Sweeping this emotional state to the junk pile in your mind is dangerous, relax into it and let grief take its course. As human beings, we develop within when we allow ourselves to grieve. Allow it to happen…

Take time out after losing a loved one and bring your attention forward, focusing on the thoughts you’re receiving. Acknowledging the feelings you’re having is the number one step to overcoming grief. Fighting against these feelings will only lead to stress and a more depressive state, and choosing to forget these feelings will simply allow them to keep creeping up on you as time goes on. Give time to grieve, and surround yourself with compassion from loved ones. You can even join local groups that help people who have lost a loved one. You also need to be alone at this time, so make some time where you can just be with yourself… no one else.

It’s key to just remember that grief is a common feeling. There’s not point resisting it, just simply relax into it. Surround yourself with loved ones who offer compassion, spend time alone, pamper yourself and simply acknowledge how you’re feeling. Take as much time as possible, it’s crucial to your growth as a person.

I really hope this helps anyone dealing with grief, it’s natural… don’t be wary of it.

I wanted to keep it simple, and most importantly like my face to face sessions, affordable. I don’t understand how the majority of counsellors can offer over £40 for a session. Each to their all, this service will hopefully help a lot of people. We can chat via an online service such as Skype, or we can simply discuss whatever you’re facing via email or over the telephone.

Here’s a basic pricing structure, and how it works:

Email Counselling

You can have a counselling session with me using exchange of emails. I will work with you for as long as you need, and works on one session per email. Don’t worry, the responses aren’t just a few lines. Expect detailed emails relating to your situation, similar to what you’ll receive within an hours session with me. You’ll get a response within 3 working days of ordering, and you’ll be given a set of questions to answer in your first email to get the most out of it.

Price: Just £10.00 for each email – Each email is extremely detailed, and is the same as an hours session with me. The good thing with this service is you can simply print off and keep the emails, and relate back to them when needed. Again I treat it the same as I do my face to face sessions, so don’t expect a quick fix in the first email. For some people, the first email is all they need but it differs for each person and situation.

Ordering: It’s as simple as paying via PayPal by clicking the button below, or getting in touch with me regarding other payment methods. Once you’ve booked your session, I’ll send you a brief email getting you to complete some simple questions. They’ll be additional questions which will help me determine how I can help you in the best way possible. Once you’ve replied, I’ll send communicate back within 2-3 working days. It’s simple and its personal. You can change your mind at any time, and you can contact me via phone at anytime.

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Telephone Counselling

This is a popular choice with some of my clients. It’s very similar to having a face to face session apart from the fact that it’s not as visual. The principle is simpler, just simply get in touch with me to book an hour session and I’ll call at that specific time. It won’t cost you any telephone bills, you just need to pay for the session as normal.

Price: £15.00 per session.

Alongside my telephone service, I also provide counselling via Skype. This gives you the mix, between visual and audio and is again popular with my clients.

To book a telephone session or Skype session, simply call me between 9am-9pm GMT on 01268 756458

Within our first session we will try to disect why you don’t value yourself and why you fell into the addiction in the first place. After this, it’s all about constant support and working on ways to overcome the reasons behind the addiction, along with working on ways to value yourself past the addiction. It’s hard to beat, but with the right support, you can live your life without the fear of this addiction taking over once again…

Lin x